The past 2 years - 2 steps away

It's hard to see the fear inside
As I walk away from you
And distance overcomes the miles
As slowly I pull through
And I cannot reach the world today
Cuz I'm suffering from you
And the more I think, the more I cry
As I walk away from you

I'm two steps away
From loneliness

I'm awake
From the mess we made
I'm alive
And I'm feeling incomplete

I don't understand my life
Or the version that chose you
And the warring hearts and winter came
Now there's nothing left to do
And I cannot reach the world today
Cuz I'm suffering from two
And the more I think, the more we die
As I walk away from you

Two steps away
From loneliness
I'm awake
From the mess we made
I'm alive
And I'm feeling incomplete

I'm two steps away

I'm two steps away
I'm two steps away

Two steps away
From loneliness
I'm awake
From the mess we made
I'm alive
And I'm feeling incomplete

I'm two steps away

- Patti LaBelle
Timeless Journey

My roommate, my friend, my hero.

Diana is my roommate. She's a great roommate. She's never loud, she isn't too messy, and she lets me watch NCIS marathons on Saturday afternoons. She also has amazing taste in clothes, just like me.



Diana is my good friend. She listens to me and cares about my life. We laugh a lot and we've certainly had some great adventures together.

Diana is also my hero, defined as someone who is admired for their brave deeds. I admire Diana for many or her brave deeds like working with the teenagers at church, always being honest with others and helping those in need.

Recently, Diana faced a personal fear of something new and unknown and joined Team In Training. Not only will she complete her first 10K in October, she is also raising $500 for The Leukemia & Lymphoma Society.

I am so proud of my roommate, my friend and my hero, Diana. No brave deed goes unnoticed and while I'm sure that Diana would humbly decline the title of hero, I'm sure those who are battling blood cancers would want to cheer her on.

I hope you'll help cheer her on, too.

http://pages.teamintraining.org/nca/MC10K09/ddelamare_LTN

www.teamintraining.org

I love my job. I can't think of anything that I would rather do than my job. Call it whatever you want, but I've definitely drank the Team In Training Kool-Aid and I am trying my best to share it with others.

This summer marks the five year anniversary of Roger Miller's lymphoma diagnosis. A few short months later, he passed away. As the leader of our congregation, his absence was felt on so many levels. It had only been two months since he had given me some of the best advice I had ever heard, "Anywhere worth going is always uphill" and there we all were, struggling uphill through grief toward understanding.

I stumbled upon LLS and TNT quite by accident a few months later and it all seemed so clear. I was going to complete a triathlon and I was going to do it in memory and honor of a man who I knew would always inspire me to keep going uphill. I joined the Team and became a part of a family of amazing athletes who strive for cures, one mile at a time. I was nervous and overwhelmed and so often afraid of failure but the coaches and the staff were always there to encourage me in my uphill battle and help me toward my personal finish line. Less than a year later, I found myself crossing the actual finish line of the Disney World Triathlon, having a new sense of self awareness and more confidence than I had ever felt.

It is one of my greatest blessings to spend my time and energy with such an amazing group of talented professionals, volunteers and advocates as we all work together to cure cancer, improve the lives of patients and their families and help as many as will break through the tape at the end of their own uphill climbs.

GO TEAM!!

I'm fresh out of answers and good jokes.

I hardly blog anymore. It sucks really. I used to really enjoy looking at my life and laughing at the funny things that happen to me and how they relate to principles that seemed important. Not so much anymore.

I can't decide whether it's because I've become so cynical that I only see cruel irony instead of amuzing or it's because after enough disappointment in life, I've grown tired of hearing those hollow sounding principles echo in the chambers of my empty heart. Who knows?

I love my job. I was recently given an amazing opportunity to lead the Team In Training campaign at our LLS chapter here in DC. I work with some of the best people on the planet - no kidding. All of my coworkers are awesome and I can't imagine working anywhere else. We are a dedicated group of professionals busting our butts to raise as much money to fund critical research for cures for blood cancers as well as fund the best programs and services for folks who are fighting cancer.

You would think that after three years, I would somehow become accustomed to learning about someone else who is fighting cancer but it never gets easy or less painful to find out that yet again, someone you love and admire has cancer.

One of our interns was told recently that her cancer is back. She's young and trying to finish grad school and has her whole life ahead of her and she's already beat blood cancer twice. Now, she has to fight for her life again and I don't think that's fair.

I've quit asking why because there is no good answer for that question and I am plum out of my funny jokes and light hearted banter to ease away the worry, fear and sadness. She has to fight again and she might not win and that sucks.

I am certainly passionate about what I do and I can live without a lot of things. I've proven to myself that I can still keep breathing and living and successfully manage most things in my life while silently suffering in the silent chambers of my own soul. I know that I'm never going to be that Flicted Friend that Randy and Charles laughed at so much all those years ago. That's OK to me - it's part of growing up that I've fully accepted and welcomed in some ways.

But what I don't think I am going to be able to survive is watching those I love and care for suffer over and over. Where is the balm in Gilead for them?

Straight up - that's how I feel.

Is the crust really the best part?

I just finished reading Same Kind of Different as Me - by Ron Hall & Denver Moore. On the cover it says, "A modern-day slave, an international art dealer and the unlikely woman who bound them together."

One of the volunteers that I work with recommended it to me last year and I've just now had the courage to read it. This volunteer is an amazing woman who lost her 4 year old son to leukemia six years ago. Amidst their pain, they brought together a community of supporters and have been instrumental in raising tens of thousands of dollars that have gone to research and patient services. They've also started their own family foundation that gives financial support to families in their community who have children who are fighting cancer.

I wanted to share a paragraph that is echoing in the empty halls of my heart these past few days.

From Denver's words, "I know when somebody you love is gone, that's the last time you feel like thanking God. But sometimes we has to be thankful for the things that hurt us cause sometimes God does things that hurts us but they helps somebody else (p. 211)."

Elder Neal A. Maxwell taught, "Irony is the hard crust on the bread of adversity" (Ensign, May 1989). I feel like I've been carbo-loading for the past two years and I'm stuffed.

You would think that when someone says, "You have been an answer to my prayers" that I would feel like the personification of a miracle, empowered, humbled, awed, overwhelmed and grateful for being an instrument in the Lord's Hand in bringing respite and relief to one or more of His children in need. Most of the time, I do.

But sometimes, I don't.

In fact, there have been times that I've said in my heart, "I'm glad your prayers were answered, but what about mine?" You would think that I would love to receive this ultimate compliment to me and my humble and spiritually discerning self (please hear my sarcasm).

If I'm 100% honest about how I feel in my heart, sometimes being the answer to someone's prayer is hard. How ironic is that? I give and in return there's pain.

Welcome to the Savior's life, Tracy.

In a similar vein, Elder Maxwell also cautioned not to wait around the altar of sacrifice for a receipt from the Lord. I guess the Lord won't overlook my constant loitering any longer so maybe I should take one last look at what's there and let it go.

Like Denver said, "sometimes God does things that hurts us but they helps somebody else." He goes on to say, "If you want to know the truth about it, nothin ever really ends but begins somewhere else where we can't hear it or see it or feel it."

Walking away - walking away - looking back - walking away - walking away.